How does one succeed in life?
14.06.2025 03:15
Like Sam’i, 99% of men treat their future selves like strangers—completely different from who they are right now.
Final example: Maybe you want to be a better version of yourself in 2025.
Saving $10,000 is a goal.
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How can I make it impossible to fall into a specific bad habit (you want to quit)?
If you don’t change now, expect tomorrow to be almost exactly the same—or worse.
Procrastinates a lot.
Paying a coach with a detailed plan is a system.
Attending 1 specific event every week is a system. Friends will naturally come to you.
I never raise problems without solutions. So, what to do?
I want to have anal sex, but my wife refuses. What do I do?
Can’t control his impulses (women, porn, masturbation, smoking, Netflix, anger, etc.).
First, understand that, effective "change" should be 80% systems and only 20% willpower—not the other way around. Do not joke with that.
Porn blockers might help, but they won’t be as effective. And you know nudity isn’t just on Pornhub—it’s everywhere. Don’t joke with fire.
Keep in mind that, there is always a system for any problem. You just need to be willing to think hard enough and BE WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES.
Example 4: Maybe you want to quit porn for 30 days.
Ask yourself:
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Example 3: Maybe you want to make more friends.
Buying, a book like Live Intentionally or any other practical self-improvement guide is a system.
Big dreamer but only in his mind.
What it is like to have sex with a relative woman?
That's it for today.
Example 2: Maybe you want to lose weight.
Opens a business and makes WiFi money.
Losing 20kg is a goal.
Most people think their 2.0 version will magically manifest and find it easier to do hard things.
Scrolls too much TikTok/YouTube Shorts.
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The truth is: Future YOU is simply YOU, but older and more tired.
In 5 years, YOU will still be the one making decisions. And if you keep your current habits, "YOU 2.0" will have big problems.
PICK 1 important thing you want to quit or bring into your life in 2025. Think hard about a system that will make it impossible or inevitable.
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Living to your full potential is a goal.
“YOU 2.0” is like your future kid. It’s your duty to make decisions for him. It is wiser to marry a nice mom for your kid, not just a beautiful wife for yourself.
Hangs out with loser friends.
Example 1: Let’s say you make a monthly income, and you want to save $10,000.
How can I make the good habit (you want to start) inevitable?
Losers and winners have the same goals. The difference is their systems.
Has a beautiful wife, cars, etc.
An average man, let's call him Sam’i (that’s my name):
Does not procrastinate.
Self-disciplined (controls his d*ck, no Netflix, no smoking, etc.).
Avoids sugar and is very fit.
Quitting porn for 30 days is a goal.
Having a process that automatically transfers money to your savings account each month is a system.
However, he firmly believes that one day, he will (like by a miracle) be that new, dope version of himself, Sam’i 2.0:
What I need from you?
Similarly, "YOU 2.0" trusts you to make decisions for him.
Do not set goals—set systems.
Making more friends is a goal.
The money you’ve invested, the tailored plan, and the accountability of the coach make it almost impossible not to succeed.
Cutting off WiFi at home for a month or giving your phone to a distant friend for a month (in exchange for a Nokia or simply nothing) is a system.
Hates going to the gym, eating healthy, or even doing laundry.